How living in a Women’s Refuge changed my Life

Up until a month ago, I was living in a Women’s Refuge, I had been living there for about 16 months.

It doesn’t really matter how I got there, that’s not what this post is about. What this is about is what being at the refuge taught me, what it did for me and how it transformed me.

As difficult as the experience has been on so many different levels, looking back I can see it as one of the most empowering, liberating and loving steps I have taken to support my own journey of growth, healing and transformation. I am definitely not the same person that came out as the one who went in.

In fact, I can say that despite the constraints of my then physical circumstances that other areas of my life began to flourish.

Funnily enough, I saw success in my business.

I became so much more visible.

I created and hosted The Abundant Living Summit that served over 100 Christian women.

I ran probably one of the most positively empowering faith-based FB groups for Christian women who wanted to heal, transform and flourish and constantly received testimonials on how it was transforming their lives.

I started a Podcast –¬† Achama Speaks Life

I enrolled coaching clients with lots more ease and grace, no stress and no fuss because they all really wanted to work with me.

And that was only in business.

Out of business things were coming into alignment too.

I had successfully¬†secured a job in a competitive sector which wasn’t in an area that I had most of my work experience in over 250 other applicants!

I met someone who is amazing and who loves me in the way I’ve always wanted to be loved.

I’m now living in my own pad, doing life the way I want, feeling truly liberated, blessed and abundant for the first time in about 18 years!!!!

Plus this month alone I was blessed to receive abundance in the form of £5000.

It seems odd right?

But not really, not when you really think about it.

All this change has happened because I was courageous enough to choose me and choose life and doing so I moved into a place of alignment with the things God had in store for me.

But I just want to say that it didn’t come easy. Not at all, I had to learn how to fight and I don’t mean spending all night praying either but I did pray, and I cried and I begged and then I wiped my eyes and I praised God and got to work and did my bit.

I focused on me.

I knew that God wanted to bless me and so I made it my mission to receive the blessings He had in store for me.

I made sure that I knew what was important to me because now that I had been given this second chance at life I just couldn’t settle for just anything ever again.

Not in life, not in relationships, and definitely not in my freedom.

Because now for the first time in such a long time it struck me…


I am free to live.

what living in a refuge taught me about freedom

And that’s what some Christians don’t understand. You are free to live, you don’t have to be shackled to a situation that isn’t blessing you and making you feel abundant. You don’t have to be tied down by beliefs and traditions of men that are crippling and suffocating you.

You are not a slave, you are free, let go of that slave mentality and thrive!

As scripture says:

“Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you.” (Galatians 5:1)

And slavery can come in so many different forms, for example, I was holding on to this testimony for a while. Fair enough I only moved a few weeks ago, but what about the other blessings?

I could have shared those but I was bound by fear of judgement, losing the value that people might hold of me if they knew my story and shame.

Until I could let go of those things, I couldn’t really be free in myself and free to encourage and bless other women.

And not only has it liberated me yet again to another degree but I have received so many messages from other women letting me know how much sharing my story has touched, inspired, resonated and encouraged them. If I had still allowed myself to be held a slave to my fears and beliefs none of this would have happened.

So I really want to encourage you, to take any words that I have shared about my experience of living in the refuge and use them to help you live a truly liberated and free life in Christ.

You are more than worth it, and yes, you deserve it.

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