Yesterday I did a Facebook Live on The Challenge Method and how it can help you move out of your comfort zone (it was actually hilarious as I had an incident with a humongous spider half-way) but this morning whilst talking to Joseph (Chike) I realised that there was so much more that I can say about The Challenge Method. First off let’s start with a definition of The Challenge Method.
What is The Challenge Method?
The Challenge Method is based on the idea that if you want to move out of your comfort zone then you need to be challenged in some way, I’ve especially noticed this since meeting my husband, from the moment I met him he’s challenged me to step out and be more and honestly, it hasn’t always felt comfortable.
This brings me to my next point, the reality of our comfort zone. Whether we want to believe or accept it or not, we all have our comfort zone, another way of saying it is a boundary of operating within that makes us feel comfortable and safe aka our Safety Kingdom. The closer we move towards the edge of our safe zone the more anxious, threatened, stressed, nervous, worried or even depressed we become – in essence we often kick into the fight-flight-or-freeze mode. However, the downside is that unless we face the feelings generated by moving towards the edge we remain within our normal limits of survival. Being able to challenge ourselves moves us out of our comfort zone.
How to use The Challenge Method
In my live, I spoke out two ways to use the Challenge Method and there’s definitely a place for both.
This is basically an all-out challenge, and what Joseph specialises in. This is about setting a goal that is outside of your comfort zone, the ultimate challenge but obviously you can just say “hell, no” right. Which I have said on occasions, however, I told you he specialises in this so he’s very good at 1) being persistent and consistent and 2) explaining his perceptions around the benefits to taking this step and 3) supporting me along the way.
TBH I’ve seen benefits of this approach, I’ve taken courageous actions in areas that I may not have taken action in and it’s also boosted my confidence and put me in situations that have shifted my perspective of reality – all very important things which I’ll go into in a bit.
Just in case you’re thinking about how you might use this method, in all honesty, the chances are that you wouldn’t succeed in doing it on yourself unless you were highly motivated and disciplined. However, an example of you using this method might be if you decided to travel alone for the first time, bungy-jump or some other activity which has no real space for backing out or finding the grey safer area.
The most common way to use this version of The Challenge Method is with the help of someone who will be able to challenge you out of your comfort zone. Traditionally this is a coach, you just have to think of sports coaches or military drill sergeants to get an idea of how this works, however, the coaching industry is based on the idea of challenge and a good coach will naturally challenge you to various degrees. Some people, for example, my own coach, will happily pay someone to kick them in the rear to get things done, however, if that doesn’t appeal to you, then you can find a coach that uses a firm yet gentler push like me (plug, plug). Want a taste of how it feels to work with me? Join my Manifestation Mindset challenge focused on helping you overcome the beliefs and thoughts topping you from creating the life and results you desire with ease.
Anywho, let’s move on to the 2nd version of The Challenge Method, thankfully it’s not as extreme as the last method and you could more easily DIY. This is basically about setting goals that are within your comfort zone, however, each goal moves you closer to the edge, so it’s a more gradual and gentler process.
If you’ve been consistent and persistent with any kind of self-development and personal growth work, if you’ve invested in courses, books, counselling, coaching or any kind of support and practically done the work involved to create transformation and growth then the good news is that you’ve likely used this method. For example, during my time at the refuge, I had quite a bit of support in the form of a Support Worker and a Counsellor, plus as I had already been doing lots of work on myself, I followed a few personal development gurus that resonated with me. I also decided to study as a Cognitive Hypnotherapist which came with its own form of challenge and support but I didn’t just use it as head knowledge, I used the support and challenge to actively take steps to change my life.
Depending on the goal topic sometimes reaching the edge of your Safety Kingdom can happen quickly and sometimes years later you’re not quite there yet. You can speed this up by giving yourself more stretching and intense goals if you feel up to it so that there’s a greater challenge for you.
The Importance of Belief & Perception Change
To round up, I just want to re-visit the importance of belief and perception change. The thing is whilst we are in our Safety Kingdom we often hold one view of the world which in a sense forces us to remain within our comfort zone. For example, if we think that we can’t speak in public then we remain living in a world where we don’t have to or are not required to speak publically. Once you decide to stretch and challenge yourself you expose yourself to a new reality which creates a paradigm shift in your universe. You discover that your perception of reality was only your perception of reality based on your lived experience so far and beliefs, but now you have exposed yourself to something new you realise that your reality was simply your own limited perception.
The awakening that comes from that is a beautiful thing and that’s why I take so much joy in supporting my clients learn to see the world in a new way, in the process, they discover their own potential and learn to navigate the highs and lows of life and the scary moments from a more empowered place. The keys to success when it comes to taking courageous action are: as I’ve mentioned consistency and persistence yes, but probably more importantly, are openness and willingness to step into the areas that trigger and frighten you and a desire, longing and determination to get to the other side and live free or freer from the burdens and strongholds that have previously held you back.
If you ARE ready to get the support you need to learn how to move out of your comfort zone and work with someone who has the personal experience, knowledge, tools, skills and beliefs to support you in doing so then let’s chat and talk about your next step. Schedule a Confidence Kickstarter session with me today, don’t sit on it, take courageous action.